Since I have started to show people have been more prone to ask about the baby- when he's due, what the gender is, etc. Occasionally people say a little more. Sometimes it's nice and other times their comments leave me speechless. For example, a couple weeks ago I was in the grocery store when a little old man says to me in his broken English, "She's going to be a very beautiful girl." ( Referring to the baby- I'll cut him some slack cause even though I am having a boy I thought it was sweet). Then today I was taking Miles out to go to the bathroom, and as I was walking down the stairs I see our new neighbor-she is out on her porch smoking a lot. We greeted each other and then she asks when I am due. I tell her September and she says, " I work with a girl who is pregnant. She is due in August. She's smaller then you." And to that I said, "................." What am I suppose to say to that!? "Gee thanks lady, I already knew I was big but thank you for reminding me." Then she proceeded to ask me if I was just having one child and not two. I am avoiding her the rest of my pregnancy- who knows what might come out of her mouth next.
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You should just avoid her the rest of your life. :) You should tell her, "oh really, when Im not pregnant Im much thinner than you and I dont even smoke to lose my weight, you should try it fatty."
ReplyDeleteBonnie used to call me Bubba when I was pregnant with Val. :) coming from bonnie its more comical though.
Dont feel bad or even overweight, Heather, I gained 7 lbs this past month. WOAH, that puts me at 9 lbs ive gained so far. So Im at 150. Isnt that what youre at? See girl, youre lookin spankin hot.
Yikes! Yeah, I can think up a lot of mean retorts to that, but since you're neighbors, it's probably best to just not say anything.
ReplyDeleteWith the first pregnancy, I had a stranger ask if I knew what I was having, and when I said no, she told me it was a boy. Well, I guess she was right in the end, but hello weirdo! :)
Hopefully you don't get a bunch of people telling you that you look like you're going to pop. I hate that.
Yeah, we didn't find out with Jamison either. I didn't care either way with this pregnancy, so I let Walker decide. He said he didn't want to find out because it drives his mother crazy :)
ReplyDeleteI had a guy at work mummer under his breath "waddle waddle waddle" every time I would walk by when I was pregnant with my first. Fun, isn't it? It doesn't stop either. You'll get all sorts of comments when you take your baby shopping or out in public. Mostly good, but there's always a few comments....
ReplyDeleteI also had someone ask if I was having twins. I wanted to smack him, but it was a councelor in th bishopric giving me a calling. People think when you are pregnant they can say whatever they want! Maybe just ask your neighbor if that is her face or did her neck throw up! Ha ha!
ReplyDeletewe could put miles' poo in a paper bag and light it on fire outside her door -- thoughts?
ReplyDeleteI was in school (college) when I was pregers with Alex. Non of my classmates ever really said anything untill the last day. As I squeezed out of my chair one of the guys says "well its a good thing today is the last day, or she won't fit into her desk tomorrow." He said it in good humor though so everyione laughed including me as that was exactly what I was thinking. People are stupid. you should have seen me compared to Jill, I could bareley tell she was pregnant.
ReplyDeletewhen i was pregnant with seth a lady at my work told me that my butt was getting bigger. so at least you're only getting comments about the baby side of your body.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness! hat kind of a comment is that? That's funny... I have to agree.. avoid her for the rest of you life! hehe!
ReplyDeleteOh dear. Don't listen to what anyone says, you look awesome! You should hear Gretchen's stories about when she was pregnant - and she was tiny, too!
ReplyDeleteI just had an experience with someone thinking Owen was a girl the other day. She was so sure that he looked like a girl and even asked me if I got that alot... And since that was really the first time anyone had ever thought that, it kind of took me off guard and I made her feel really awkward with what how I replied. Oh well... its another one of those things you just DON'T say. And if you DO say it, you stop talking when you realize what you've said - instead of digging deeper! :)
If nothing else, we can learn not to say these kinds of things to other people, huh!
Oh Heather, I am so sorry. That is never a nice thing to say! I think if you saw me though you would feel happy. I get HUGE, but the babies are huge too. I think it has to do with being short, there is no place for the baby to go but out! Good luck cutie and thanks for the b-day wish. What a sweetheart you are!
ReplyDeleteIt's so easy to be offended... you'll feel a lot better about your pre- and mid-pregnancy bodies after the baby's born, though (at least I did) - and it helps let the dumb things roll off... most people really aren't trying to be rude - I think they just forget that the stigma of being "big" doesn't quit bothering us just because we're pregnant...
ReplyDeleteWe got a lot of "girl?" with Kiddo, too, b/c he's really quite a beautiful little boy, if I do say so myself, but he'll grow up to be handsome, and if we have any girls, at least we know they'll be beautiful, too! ;-)
what the.. er... who the... why the... she said what?!! seriously! why do people think that pregnancy is a free pass to be ruder than should EVER be socially acceptable?!
ReplyDeleteYou look fab doll! maybe a little toilet papering of her smoke-infested porch is in order?